On the night of L1’s first birthday, Daddy Park and I learned that we were going to have another baby.
Naturally, we were elated. But after the giddiness came the worries. In nine months, L1 would become a big sister at a time of her life she technically should still be called a “baby” herself.
Fortunately for today’s mothers, parents can help ease the transition of still-nursing elder-siblings-to-be through this children’s book called Mommy Loves You Just the Same.
Mommy Loves You Just the Same is a project from the heart by Teresa Gumap-as Dumadag inspired by her own children’s experience. This e-book also uses the same poem the author used with her elder children after discovering that Baby Number Three was on his way.
When the author’s second son was born, her firstborn unexpectedly became depressed. He was a lively boy who suddenly lost the will to live after realizing what a new addition in the family affected his parents’ time for him. He became lethargic and less engaged with life. His parents had to make more effort to show that being a bit busy with his brother did not mean that he mattered any less. The older son eventually adapted to the situation, but it took awhile. (You can read more of their story here.—for those in China, VPNs on.)
When the author discovered that she was pregnant again with her third child, she worried. And so in order to prepare her two older children for the change that was about to come, she came up with this poem which she recited to them daily. And thus Mommy Loves You Just the Same was born.
In this story, it is the father who tells their son that they are expecting another baby. The son actively participates in “raising” the baby, connecting with his younger sibling through reading, singing lullabies and just chatting about anything. His active participation continues even after his sibling is born, when his Mommy puts him in charge of certain responsibilities such as become the diaper retriever.
The story ends with her elder son asking for some nourishment as well, and their mother breastfeeding both children simultaneously. Each child feeds for a different need; one for nourishment and the other just because he is looking for that assurance that, despite the fact that much of Mommy’s attention is now on someone else, that really Mommy still loves him just the same.
For those with young children about to become elder siblings, this is a great book to read with your children. The art is engaging as well, using bright colors to liven a potential topic of despair for your child. What I love best about this book is that this is the author’s own tried-and-tested poem that helped her two older children adapt when their youngest sibling came around. It also has a few downloadable pages for the elder sibling/s to help entertain and educate them while Mommy is breastfeeding.
Thank you for reading, and I hope you enjoyed it!
This book is part of my 52 Children’s Books from Asian Authors collection. Discover more children’s books by Asian authors by clicking this photo below:
*Disclaimer: I was given a copy of this e-book for review purposes. I was not asked to write a positive review in exchange for this. All thoughts and opinions are my own.